SWF Looking for MWaB (Man With a Brain)

I’ve tried internet dating in the past and I’m thinking about trying it again. I’ve been browsing profiles tonight and find it a bit weird. On one hand, it can be a fun, safe way to meet new people but on the other, there is something kinda cold about it all. All lists and descriptions and calculations and no randomness or fate. But then, that may just be my inner Mills & Boon lover speaking.

One of the things that turns me off straight away is a man wearing a chain, particularly a gold one. I don’t know why, I just kinda shudder and move right along. Thinking about it, I guess it is based on the stereotype of a beer swilling, sleazy lad who wears a gold chain and his shirt wide open. The type that always reminds me of monkeys at the zoo, swinging from branches while leering and grunting at all the tourists. So not attractive in a man.

The other thing I hate is when the profiles are written along the lines of “I am so buff 4 u babeee!”. That kind of, ahem, attempt at spelling is usually accompanied by a photo of the man with his top off and arms in that stupid bodybuilder pose. You know the one, they either look like a deformed teapot or a constipated orangutan. Hmm, I seem to compare unappealing men to monkeys a lot. Maybe because they remind me of the theory about the so-called missing link in human evolution.

I may sound awful and horribly picky, but I’m not really. I want to meet an intelligent man who has a big heart, likes to talk about everything under the sun, is geeky, isn’t a party person and has at least a few manners. The more the better. If I could find one who knits or was otherwise creative; miaoow!

Something else I’ve noticed in recent times, not just in regards to online dating, is that I seem to be acquiring an attraction to older men. Not too much older, a bit. I don’t know where this new thing came from, but I also suddenly seem to be noticing men with grey hair. Of course, I still like men in the same age group as me just as much as before, but the age range I am attracted to is a bit wider.


  1. Having worked on rebuilding a dating site earlier this year (one for single parents) I can easily see how anyone would be put off by some of the profiles up on there. One of the advantages of internet dating is that you can easily pass over those you instantly find unappealing in whatever sense. Spelling and “bling” certainly not uncommon reasons to move onto the next one.
    Then again, with it being what it is, you do don’t always know if you’re reading a dubious profile.


  2. Grey hair…hmmm, I can definately see where you’re coming from – Richard Gere HELLO :heart: :heart: :heart:

    I don’t know that internet dating is that different from meeting someone at a bar if you really think about it. I mean, yes, ‘profiles’ might seem a rather cold way to go about it, but when you see someone hanging out somewhere trying to meet someone, most of the time it’s rarely a case of ‘what you see is what you get’ – I mean, there’s a different kind of facade going on most of the time, I think. If that makes sense!

    I think fate can happen through any medium, be it in person, or online. If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be.

    In fact, I know of people who have met online, gotten married, and lived happily ever after. It happens!

    Just give the monkeys a bit of a wide berth, is all. Good luck!!


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